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On Self Care: Self-Care Tips

Self-Care Tips in Detroit, MI By Jarrette Wright-Booker, LPC, CAADC

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Pick up the dry cleaning, sign the permission slip, check into the new mentoring program, study for the exam, figure out what to cook for dinner, get an application in before the deadline…And the list goes on. How often do you find your mind racing with thoughts of all of the things you ‘must’ accomplish for yourself and others? Do you consider how much of your energy goes toward doing for others? Which leads you to put yourself on the back burner? When’s the last time you did something for yourself – besides the obligatory things

Research shows that women are still doing more at home or work than men and women are more likely to be caregivers for elderly and/or ill parents. Despite always having the highest levels of labor market participation, Black women are still more likely to be paid less and more likely excluded from or discriminated against when seeking careers in professional fields. And these encompass just some of the stressors we face on a daily basis. What’s more is that in the midst of all of this, we are more likely to deny ourselves for the good of others based on how we’ve been socialized. 

No Wonder We Struggle with Emotions and Self-Care

It probably comes as no surprise then that we have a hard time expressing our feelings and needs. Or, even just taking time to check in with ourselves. Some of us will avoid checking in with ourselves as much as humanly possible because we fear ‘falling apart. Others prefer to be numb and don’t quite understand the point of feeling emotions because ‘it won’t change anything. 

Whatever the choice, one thing is true: It takes a toll on our physical, emotional, and spiritual bodies when we’ve made the decision to disconnect, ignore or avoid our complete selves. Chronic illness and disease are largely connected to our mental health. When we’ve made the decision to live on the logical, rationalizing thinking part of our brain, we miss out on so much. That’s why it’s so important to take self-care tips to heart and add them into your routine where it makes sense.  

Don’t believe me? Ok, here’s a small exercise to help you curiously observe what’s happening in your physical body: 

  • What did you observe happening in your body, with your thoughts and your feelings? 
  • If you were brave enough to complete even just a couple of minutes of the body scan, what came up for you? 
  • What did you find yourself telling yourself AND what do the words that were chosen tell you about your relationship with yourself? With others? 
  • Are you willing to submit yourself to your own needs? 
  • What do you find yourself needing right now? 

Take Inventory of How You Feel After That Reflection

Ok, that was a lot. But maybe you realized some things during this exercise that motivated and inspired you to do more to care for yourself. After all, self-care is not exclusive to manicures, pedicures, and facials. Those things are great too, no shade – it’s also committing to doing hard things for yourself in the service of becoming your best self for yourself, first, and then others. When we are good with ourselves, we can be even better to other people. 

Need more self-care tips for yourself? I got YOU:

Practice saying NO and then Just Do It

Easier said than done but necessary for maintaining the space we need for rest. Ways to say no: 

  • I won’t be able to make it, I have other plans – maybe next time. 
  • Right now, I’m only able to consider paid opportunities, my pro-Bono spots are filled for the year. 

Exercise

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I know, you’ve heard it before. This time, think about things that you enjoy – tennis, swimming, walking and talking with a friend, bike riding – and commit a couple of days a week to doing it. The best exercise is the exercise you WILL do. 

Schedule intentional downtime

Yeah, I said it. Stop filling up your calendar. Just because you see a white space does not mean it needs to be filled. It’s ok to be unscheduled and bored. Lean into that, allow your imagination to run wild, or get some rest. 

Practice asking for help and then DO IT!

You do not have to do everything yourself. Asking for help does not make you weak, it makes you human and likely gives people the opportunity to show up for you the same way you’ve shown up for them. This part will be hard too – drop the expectation that they *must* help you the way you help them in order for it to count. Drop the unrealistic expectations, only YOU can be YOU, let them be them, and show up for you the way they know-how. 

The one thing about these tips is that they require a self-check-in. You will know when you need to say no, when you need downtime and when to ask for help ONLY AFTER you’ve done a self-check. If you’re having a hard time with these processes – implementing self-care or checking in with yourself – it may be time to talk to schedule an appointment

In the meantime, I leave you with this musical inspiration:

Need Help Beginning a Routine and Need Self-Care Tips in Detroit, MI?

As a working woman, you are expected to put up with a lot. Kids, family, relationships, and work. Yet you are told not to complain and continue working at 110%. That’s not sustainable in any career. Often, black women may deal with microaggressions and find they are not being heard in a work setting which leads to burnout and career dissatisfaction. Don’t let this hold you back from changing the norm. Counseling can help you find balance, weigh the pros and cons, and find a more satisfying career. Our Detroit, MI counseling practice has caring therapists who specialize in therapy for working professionals. We are truly ready to meet you where you are at. To start your counseling journey, follow these simple steps: 

  1. Contact Introspective Counseling  
  2. Meet with one of the therapists who offers career support. 
  3. Begin finding satisfaction in your career, business, and personal life! 

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At Introspective Counseling, we provide more than therapy for working professionals. We work with women to address these issues as well as provide screening and assessment for other mood and mental health issues including postpartum depression, anxiety and perfectionism, depression, grief, bipolar disorder and traumamarriage counseling and couples therapytherapy for momslife transitionstherapy for high achieversLGBTQIA+ counselingEMDR Therapy, and services for entrepreneurs and professionals. Additionally, we offer all of our services either in-person or via online therapy in Michigan. We are confident that our skills and expertise can help you discover and achieve the life that you want for yourself and would be honored to join you on your journey to wellness. Begin therapy with us today!